Conflict Through Dialogue: 5 Ways to Create Havoc
Yes, I have one more post based on the dialogue workshop I taught for Imaginarium in July. Missed the first two? You can find them here:
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In this post, I want to focus on how you can use dialogue to build conflict. People create conflict through what they say. Sometimes they do it on purpose. Sometimes, we create it by accident. In fact, over the years I've seen more conflict arise from accidental misunderstandings than by purposeful intent.
Wait a minute? Conflict can be created by accident? Sure!How often are our words misunderstood?
Maybe we don't know the proper word or pronunciation. Maybe we can't recall the word we want to say--a phenomena I'm experiencing more and more. Most often, we believe we're stating our thoughts clearly, but the other person perceives and interprets it differently.
- This person has no clue.
- What did he mean by that?
- Did she really just say that?
- That's hilarious.
- I wonder what I'll have for supper?
- Nothing. They think they understood you.
Of course, this list isn't all-inclusive, but it gives us an idea on how we can create confusion through dialogue. (Not to mention, it can help us in our every day lives, too.)